Marriage counseling requires commitment and the drive to improve the relationship while also recognizing the dilemmas that exist within it. Too often very counseling becomes a blame game, finding balance and understanding that my own criticisms of my spouse is also the source of my need for closeness and connection.
Learning to request closeness rather than criticizing and blaming is the pathway to a new beginning in a troubled relationship. Learning to coordinate our emotions and intentions with our significant other allows us to feel the joy of attachment and closeness. Understanding how are our own negative behavior contributes to the difficulty in our marriage becomes a resource for where to begin to heal.